Hey everyone, Iβm delighted to share that Iβm pregnant! Iβm due in January and this will be our second child. We had Finley almost 5 years ago, heβs so excited to be a big brother!
We struggled to get pregnant with Finley because I wasnβt cycling due to my disordered relationship with food and exercise and coming off the pill after 10 years. Thankfully this time it was much easier!
We wanted to wait this long for a few reasons, firstly, we wanted to wait until Finley was settled in school so that it wouldnβt be quite the same financial strain as having two children in nursery. I also felt I just needed this time to recover properly from the first time round. Some of you might remember that Finleyβs first few weeks weβre very hard for us due to his premature birth and heart defect. Plus he was a terrible sleeper for years, Iβve just been so depleted I knew that trying much sooner wouldnβt have been good for me.
I also really like the age gap weβll have, it does seem to be bigger than most families but I think for us itβs going to work well. Finleyβs at an age now where he knows exactly whatβs going on, heβs excited and I think heβll be able to adjust to the change a lot better than when he was younger.
The whole family is over the moon!
So far (Iβm 12 Β½ weeks as I type) it hasnβt been too bad, Iβve definitely had worse nausea and tiredness this time round though. I had an early scan at 6 weeks because I was getting some one sided pain so we needed to rule out ectopic, but obviously all was well.
I also have quite a bump on me already, I know you tend to show sooner with your second but it feels like my tummy muscles just gave up by 6 weeks! I’m also quite bloated a lot of the time too so I’ve been in my old maternity jeans for a few weeks now already. Might as well embrace it eh!
I have had really bad food aversions though, for weeks all Iβve been able to eat is crisps, ice lollies and basically anything carb heavy. Itβs really frustrating as I know eating that food is making me feel more tired but its been all I could stomach. I do seem to be feeling a little better recently but still get periods of feeling sick during the day.
As Finley had his heart problem weβre under a special consultant, and I would be lying if I said I havenβt been worried about this baby having problems but ultimately thereβs nothing we can do at this point, we just need to wait until weβve had the scans basically. Compared to last time I’m way less anxious which is definitely a good thing!
So yep, here we go again!
I really want to enjoy this pregnancy as much as possible so now that I seem to be turning a corner with all the unpleasantness Iβm trying to get as organised and intentional about things as I can – whilst also going with the flow – after all, βflowβ was my word for 2019!
Anyone else having their second? Any other Mums with a 5 year age gap? Let me know your tips!
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